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REDEMPTION & DELIVERANCE: FROM PAIN, SEX AND DECEPTION
One day 24 years ago I was reading a newspaper and found an article written by a Black man who was in prison. The article touched me deeply, so I wrote to him, not looking for love or affection as some women write a prisoner for, but I wanted to share with him that I understood heartaches. I thought it might encourage him while incarserated. But that article changed my entire future, I had no clue I was writing to an inmate with what I called a "golden tongue," and how he could trick, lie, abuse and manuplate me to his world of pain, deception and shame. I opened up to him and shared my loneliness, but he would use it against me, pushing all the right buttons and made me feel like a needed woman once again.
I was such a fool at that time in my life and I ended up falling in love with this monster with the "golden tongue." I nearly lost everything that was dear to me. The first 15 years were years of hell. I was a faithful wife and endured the shame and stigma that is sometimes put on a prisoners wife. My family was very disappointed with me and to make matters worse, even the man I loved treated me like dirt.
I never felt so alone and no where to turn except back to God. Yet for the first 15 years I fought a brave fight to hold on. In this book I'm able to share what really happens and what takes place behind walls of broken dreams. Also what wives, girlfriends and families suffer at times, in some form or fashion. I speak about things that are never heard on TV or what can be read in newspapers. I'm able to share what the real prison is all about, with con-games, and tricks that some inmates use to lure their innocent victims into their world of deception. Yet, in spite of the heartaches I endured and miles of travel from one prison to another and sleepless nights, it wasn't until the last 9 years that my life and marriage has changed and has become what God intended it to be.
I learned behind pain, suffering, tears and waiting for God to change him, it was through God's love, grace and promise to me that change both of our lives. I know that the power of God gave me back all that I thought I had lost. My story is about loss and yet also about finding strength in myself, my husband and most important my faith in God.
The last 9 years out of the 24 years with my "new inmate' husband in a world that only the strongest are able to survive have been the best yet. It was indeed a healing process for me to be able to write this book. My story has been a great inspiration to many others. It's taught them never to give up on themselves, but most important never to give up on God, because He never gives up on them no matter what situation they may be going through. All of this is so true, because I lived it.
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